tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post1684508482652730480..comments2023-04-09T07:52:59.375-05:00Comments on Perpetual Ambition: I'm a CowardLoreleihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15328570422566719807noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-10168313428743783112012-07-25T20:01:44.371-05:002012-07-25T20:01:44.371-05:00I wouldn't call you a coward. It's a tough...I wouldn't call you a coward. It's a tough position to be in, wanting to do the right thing by those innocent boys but protecting you & Gavin is paramount. It sucks there was nothing else the PO could do...I was stalked for years by an ex & the cops couldn't do much but one told me once that when I called into 911 if the ex came to my house, tell them (911) that he may have a gun & cops would be there in a heartbeat as opposed to if I just said he was there harassing me again...<br /><br />Whatever you decide to do, keep safe & be vigilant.Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-26318557656025180642012-07-24T21:30:54.282-05:002012-07-24T21:30:54.282-05:00Yikes.
How about telling your pediatrician, and s...Yikes.<br /><br />How about telling your pediatrician, and see if there's anything they can do? Just a thought...<br /><br />I'd love for you to be able to come up with a way to do something to help those poor boys... they don't deserve this! But I get that you have to keep your family safe from harm... of course.<br /><br />Be safe, and let us know what happens...Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437548841903850607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-70863328381954897352012-07-24T21:12:11.724-05:002012-07-24T21:12:11.724-05:00Wow! That's a terrible situation. If u call CP...Wow! That's a terrible situation. If u call CPS u might have trouble, but if u don't those boys might. I think u should call. It's worse if you don't. Make sure u talk to other neighbors thoJemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480192191711301637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-1465819043561553682012-07-24T20:52:16.234-05:002012-07-24T20:52:16.234-05:00Ugh, what a horrible situation - just reading abou...Ugh, what a horrible situation - just reading about it makes me feel sick, I can't imagine what you must be going through right now. I agree that you need to do whatever you can to protect yourself and your baby, whatever that means. <br /><br />What scares me most is his doomsday prediction. It reminds me too much of murder/suicide stories involving children. I really hope that's not the case for your neighbor but I really would watch out for anything that you find the least bit alarming and call the police in that case.<br /><br />Like Abby, my first thought is "can you move?" It may not be a realistic option, and it's certainly not fair that you'd have to be the one to go instead of him; but if it's even something you would consider, now or in the near future, I'd look into it.<br /><br />I hope that you get some peace soon.Tashianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-72704881163224688702012-07-24T20:42:24.075-05:002012-07-24T20:42:24.075-05:00This situation makes me very afraid for your safet...This situation makes me very afraid for your safety. As much as it sucks, your priority has to be protecting yourself and your child. You are not a coward, you're doing what anyone would do in your shoes. <br /><br />Do you know your neighbors? Even if you don't, it would be worth it to get to know them now, let them know what is going on, have them looking out for you. Can you at least go out of town for a little bit? Maybe if he doesn't see you for awhile, he'll focus his anger on someone else. <br /><br />Please keep us posted.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14647211529119137824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-49092913406379862342012-07-24T19:56:27.926-05:002012-07-24T19:56:27.926-05:00I am also a mandated reporter as a healthcare prov...I am also a mandated reporter as a healthcare provider BUT when I have made those calls, it was in a professional capacity. The people I have reported didn't know where I lived (never mind living next door and being able to monitor my every move!).<br /><br />I would be extremely afraid if I were in your shoes and was considering making an official report. <br /><br />For what it's worth, I would not make the call. It can get leaked, who made the call, and you don't want to put your own child's life at risk to save someone else's.<br /><br />However, I think it's a great idea to find someone else to make the call... but it may be hard to find someone plausible. Can you get the children hooked up with some outside activities? And then encourage the children to tell people there? Or even encourage the children to tell their mother?<br /><br />Protecting yourself and your child is a reasonable thing to do and no one should fault you for it. <br /><br />I'm sorry you have been put in such a terrible position.<br /><br />The other thing you might consider totally sucks but... can you move? If he's this nuts, he could assume you did something, even if you do nothing. from what you say, he sounds dangerous and unstable.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-27334740534996433892012-07-24T19:25:50.653-05:002012-07-24T19:25:50.653-05:00As a healthcare worker I'm also required to re...As a healthcare worker I'm also required to report it if I suspect it. When I worked pediatrics I had to make that call several times. Once it was on a gang member/ drug dealer and his wife. The police we're involved with that one. She was arrested at the hospital, but he wasn't. I needed a police escort to make sure he didn't follow me. I wasn't a mother at the time, so I don't know if I'd be as quick to be involved now. But if Annelise were in danger I would hope someone would be brave enough to intervene. You're in a tough situation, those boys obviously need help, but I don't know if our system will be able to protect you if you say something. It seems like CPS should already be involved if he's had issues with another child. Good luck.SurlyMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15933109106254963802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-87116573484335007602012-07-24T18:29:53.387-05:002012-07-24T18:29:53.387-05:00I was just going to say the same thing as Ali. As...I was just going to say the same thing as Ali. As a teacher I would legally have to call the Children's Aid Society immediately. You have been extremely brave so far. I can't imaging the fear you must feel at this point. I do understand your hesitation at not calling even at your first suspicions. And it is very hard to get involved when you fear for the safety of your baby as well as yourself. Please keep us posted.Little Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07198562777228685277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-905429217115989688.post-43251667787563886062012-07-24T17:43:47.625-05:002012-07-24T17:43:47.625-05:00That is a tricky situation. As a teacher, I am le...That is a tricky situation. As a teacher, I am legally required to contact officials if I suspect abuse/neglect. Is it possible to contact the boys' biological mom? Or maybe another neighbor could contact CPS, or can you do it anonymously? Either way, someone needs to help them.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04113533500702336140noreply@blogger.com